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Boys Town National Hotline

Organization URL(s)

http://hotline@boystown.org/  External Link For espanol: http://www.healthfinder.gov/espanol/

Other Contact Information

Boys Town Public Relations Department
14100 Crawford Street

Boys Town, NE 68010

800-448-3000 (Voice - Toll-free)
800-448-1833 (Voice - TDD)

Description

The Boys Town National Hotline is a 24-hour crisis, resource and referral line. Accredited by the American Association of Suicidology, the Hotline has been in operation since 1989 and is staffed by trained counselors who can respond to questions every day of the week, 365 days a year. Approximately 500,000 callers contact the hotline annually to receive help relating to being suicidal, physically or sexually abused, on the run, addicted, threatened by gang violence, fighting with a parent, a parent frustrated by a child, scared of a spouse, or faced with an overwhelming challenge. Visitors can also chat online with counselors every Monday (except holidays) from 8 to 9 PM CST.

Online Resources

  

Crisis Hotlines

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
    1-800-273-TALK (8255)
    The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s mission is to provide immediate assistance to individuals in suicidal crisis by connecting them to the nearest available suicide prevention and mental health service provider.
    Federal Partner: Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
  • National Hopeline Network
    1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)
    This national crisis hotline network connects people who are depressed or suicidal, or those who are concerned about someone they love, automatically to a CONTACT USA or AAS certified crisis center.
    National Organization: Kristin Brooks Hope Center
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline
    1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
    1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
    A hotline for victims of domestic and family violence at home, and concerned family and friends.
  • National Child Abuse Hotline
    1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
    A hotline for parents, children, professionals, and anyone concerned that child abuse is occurring.
    National Organization: Childhelp USA
  • National Sexual Assault Hotline
    1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)
    This hotline connects sexual assault victims to local rape crisis centers.
    National Organization: The Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN)
  • National Runaway Switchboard
    1-800-621-4000
    For runaway youth, teens in crisis, and concerned friends and family members.
    Federal Partner: Family and Youth Services Bureau, U.S. Department of Health & Human Services
  • Girls and Boys Town Hotline
    1-800-448-3000
    1-800-448-1833 (TDD)
    Crisis, resource and referral line staffed by trained counselors – “the only hotline available to anyone at any time”.
    National Organization: Girls and Boys Town
  • Covenant House “Nineline”
    1-800-999-9999
    1-800-999-9915 (TDD)
    Covenant House, which serves runaway and homeless youth, operates this hotline for kids and parents with any kind of problem.
  • National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
    1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678)
    For families and law enforcement agencies reporting a missing child and seeking search assistance; people reporting the sighting of a missing child or child exploitation; professionals seeking resources.
                            
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These are some parenting tips from parenting.org

Quick Tips for Parents
  • No matter how old your children are, know where they are, whom they are with, and what they are doing. This helps prevent problems and shows your kids that you care about them.
  • Never use spanking or other forms of physical punishment with your child. An occasional swat on the rear end is okay as an attention-getter, but it should never be the punishment.
  • You can criticize a child’s behavior, but never criticize the child.
  • Never verbally put down your child. There’s a difference between correcting your child and attacking your child.
  • Be a “5-to-1” parent. Every time you give your child a consequence for misbehavior, provide five opportunities for him or her to earn your praise or a reward.

    1.       Identifying and managing disruptive behaviors:

    It is very important to understand the behavior of youth in order to modify it. I found a great article that gives input on how to handle anger outbursts in boys. http://parenting.ivillage.com/teen/tbehavior/0,,47dm,00.html Remember that you are not alone in dealing with a child that has disruptive behaviors.It is not your fault! Use that energy to get help for the problem.
    Do we as parents ignore the red flags when it comes to discipling our boys?
    Does the : "Boys will be Boys" = A free pass to bad behavior? Read this article and decide for yourself.
    http://www.momlogic.com/2008/10/boys_will_be_boys_-_a_free_pas.php 

    There is definitely a fine line between boys play and boys trying to manipulate a parent.The article touches on bullying which is a concern in many households.Here is an article that talks about raising a bully and actions to take to prevent it.

    http://www.momlogic.com/2008/03/bullied_boy_fights_back.php

    Parenting:   What behaviors to watch for in boys who are entering the teen years:
    Who doesn't need advice on parenting our young boys?It takes time, care, and love to mold a child.Here are some warning signs (from Dr.Phil's site)to look for when raising boys:  http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/597



    I do not believe in labeling  children.I believe some psychologist simply give a name to identify certain behaviors.
    Here is an article I found that identifies ODD as a behavior that some boys may display:Keep in mind that this is not a diagnosis of your boy.You should always consult your physician.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder-ODD Child Behavior

Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a serious psychiatric disorder that affects around 2 to 16% of all the kids. It is a serious behavioral anomaly which when untreated may result in many other disorders in the life of the patient. The main reason why Oppositional Defiant Disorder, or ODD for short, goes unnoticed is because people are not aware of the signs and symptoms of the disease. This is where the importance of the behavior chart comes in.

A child suffering from ODD may show various signs. Some of the symptoms from behavior chart are mentioned below:

1) Defiance of all adults and seniors and refusing to comply with their rules.
2) A case of bad temperament.
3) Arguing with elders and annoying them on purpose.
4) Remaining angry and irritated almost always.
5) Refusing to take responsibility for one’s actions and putting the blame on someone else’s shoulders.
6) Remaining touchy and getting annoyed at the slightest pretext.

The behaviors listed above are not dangerous signs of Oppositional Defiant disorder in themselves as almost every child displays similar behavior at some point of time in their lives. However, when these symptoms keep recurring and become a regular feature for about 6 months or above, then it should become a thing of concern. A child suffering from ODD should not be confused with a child who is slightly moody and emotional in nature. It is completely normal for all children to display the behaviors mentioned in the behavior chart for Oppositional Defiant Disorder but if they persist for almost 6 months, the child should be treated medically at the earliest possible. Behavior modification for Oppositional Defiant disorder is important.

The reasons for a child developing ODD are many and can range from genetic factors to environmental factors to even medical factors. It is believed that if the parents of the child have remained on the wrong side of law for behavioral problems, chances are that the person will also develop ODD in his life. A mother smoking heavily during her pregnancy can also result in the child being born with impaired mental health that might result in the disease later.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder is the most common of all of children’s mental disorders. Almost anybody has a chance of getting the disease and it does not happen to people of a certain economic strata. It has however been seen that Oppositional Defiant Disorder seldom features independently. It is almost always accompanied by other such neuropsychiatric conditions. A child with ODD is most likely to suffer from ADHD.

How does one identify and diagnose Oppositional Defiant Disorder? The most important criteria would be that parents educate themselves and come to terms with the symptoms listed in behavior chart. They need to talk to the child and not brush off any of his antics. They would do good to pay heed as it is better to be safe than sorry.


Next is an article from Parent's magazine that  describes  Attention Deficit Disorder:

Find out if your child has ADD/ADHD, and what you can do to help.

Could My Child Have ADD/ADHD?

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), now referred to by physicians as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), is a condition that affects about five percent of American children today. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, boys are two to three times more likely to suffer from ADHD than girls.

The classic signs of ADHD are a child's inability to focus and a tendency to act impulsively. Here are some other common symptoms:


  • Inappropriate levels of activity

  • Distractibility

  • Inability to sit still or pay attention in class

  • Tendency to act "without thinking"

  • Becoming easily distracted by irrelevant sights and sounds

  • Rarely following instructions carefully and completely

  • Often losing or forgetting things

  • Frequent fidgeting and squirming

  • Having difficulty waiting in line or for a turn


All kids exhibit some of this behavior at one time or another. So how do you know if your child is suffering from ADHD or he's just a wild kid? Children who are responding to stressful family situations, are bored in the classroom, or are passing through certain stages of development may, at times, appear inattentive, hyperactive, or impulsive. That doesn't mean they have ADHD.

But there are a few clues that may signal that your child's actions are a symptom of ADHD. You should consult with your child's teacher and pediatrician if his symptoms appear:


  • Before age 7

  • Continuously -- not just in response to a temporary situation

  • To last for at least six months

  • More severely than other children in the same age group

  • In multiple settings (not just in the classroom or on the playground)

There may be serious consequences for persons with AD/HD who do not receive treatment or receive inadequate treatment. These consequences may include low self-esteem, social and academic failure, career underachievement and a possible increase in the risk of later antisocial and criminal behavior.

One of the most difficult challenges that parents and adults with AD/HD face is what to do about treatment.  Because there is no "cure" for AD/HD and no single treatment option that is right for everyone, treatment plans should be tailored to meet the specific needs of each individual and family.

So treating AD/HD often requires medical, educational, behavioral, and psychological intervention. This comprehensive approach to treatment is called "multimodal" and, depending on the age of the individual with AD/HD, may include the following:

  • Parent training
  • Behavioral intervention strategies
  • An appropriate educational program
  • Education regarding AD/HD
  • Medication, when necessary

You should also consider talking with a mental health professional to rule out other possible psychological problems, such as depression or a learning disorder.

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